How To Be Okay With Being Vulnerable in Friendships

This post was edited for and originally published on WeAreBeautiful.org on August 4, 2018.


Growing up, I was the type of person to totally embrace vulnerability. I had a knack for initiating genuine connections with others by being open and showing a desire to truly know others. In church, my youth pastor would always come to me to make friends with the new girl, or have me introduce her to others. In school, I always approached those who sat alone. And, I made a lot of great friendships this way!

I never wanted anyone to not have someone who knew them and loved them even still. To know that someone wants to make a connection with you, and chooses to sit with you, who wants to know you – this desire for community and relationship is a reflection of what Jesus desires to share with us. And what better way to demonstrate the love that Christ has for us, than to display that same desire to know and to love others?

But building deep friendships is a marathon, not a sprint. It takes a lot of trust, a lot of hours spent together, and a lot of vulnerability. Continue reading

What Apartment Life Is Really Like

This is one of my favorite spaces in our mini apartment. Many months were spent in this corner reading books, having game nights with friends, facing challenges in our marriage, and taking naps with Izzy. It’s weird knowing that this is probably the last time we’ll live in an apartment, because our goal is to buy (or rent) a house at this time next year! And though I’m really excited for the possibility of buying our first home, there’s a small part of me that will be nostalgic for apartment life.

Friends, I’ve lived in 6 different apartments in the last 6 years in two different states. That’s a lot of moving, and a lot of roots to put down and pick back up again! There’s something so unique about apartment life that I’ve grown to embrace over the years Continue reading

Finding Magic in Motherhood: Self Care For Mamas Who Wear Many Hats

I am thrilled to introduce you to Marissa Kellner, a sweet friend of mine who I met on Instagram a year and a half ago while I was still pregnant with Izzy! Marissa is talented on so many levels: she is a home school mama, is a part-time nurse in the NICU/Maternity Unit, and runs her own business (The DellaRose Boutique) making felt wands and felt flower headbands for little girls. A couple of my favorite things about Marissa is her enthusiasm about being a mama maker, and her ability to balance it all. It’s something I admire! Today she is sharing her story about how she started her business, where her inspiration comes from, and how she balances her creative outlet with the many hats she wears.

One thing on your bucket list: “Well I have a ton, but one of them that I plan to do next year is hike a 14er (a.k.a. 14,000 ft. mountain) next year.”

Movie you wish you could live out: “Hands down, Pride and Prejudice! It’s my favorite love story and I’m a total Jane Austen girl. Her novels are my jam – I’ve read them all multiple times. Oh also, The Sound of Music because I just believe in singing randomly and if it was socially acceptable, I would live like I was in a musical.”

Are you a coffee or tea person: “Both! I’m a self-proclaimed coffee snob. I would rather have no coffee than bad coffee. But I also love hot tea on occasion.”

Thank you Marissa for being a part of our Real-Girls: Mothers community! Finding magic in the midst of motherhood + marriage is something  we are all doing, together. Motherhood is not easy for every mama, and goodness knows it takes time to adjust into that new role!

PS: Make sure you scroll to the bottom of this post to find out how to enter our GIVEAWAY for a free felt hair bloom of your choice!

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29 Things I Want To Do Before I Turn 30

Turning 30 won’t happen until April 2019, but I actually am really looking forward to this new decade of my life. My 20s were full of crazy and fun adventures but also hold a lot of heartbreak and bittersweet memories. I spent 2/3 of my 20s getting my college degrees, dating the best and the worst types of guys, getting tattoos, making friendships and losing friendships, and worked a total of 9 different jobs (usually 2-3 jobs at a time). I also moved to a different state, bought my first car and ran her to the ground, bought a second car, moved back to California, got married, and had a baby. You guys, I have memories of riding the bus to middle school thinking that high school seemed so far away. And then again in high school, I couldn’t even imagine being in college…I thought 25 was “old” and all I wanted in the world was to get my belly button pierced. My how things have changed since then! It’s so weird to look back on those years and realize how much time and life has gone by.  Continue reading

Featured Real-Girl Essay: Trusting God’s Promises When You’re Stuck in the Pits

This week’s Featured Real-Girl’s Essay is written by Meagan Thompson, a sweet friend of mine who I finally met in person 2 years ago after finding her through We Are Beautiful‘s Instagram page a while back. Meagan is probably the most genuine person I’ve met – five minutes into a conversation with her, and you’ll know her passionate love for the Lord, her obsession with Disneyland, and a steadfast love for cultivating community. Also, she has great hair. It fills me with such joy to call her my sister friend! Today she is sharing a story many of us can relate to – how to pull yourself out of the pit, and embrace the person God has called you to be.

One thing on your bucket list? “Pack up a van with my hubby and my pooch and road trip up the west coast visiting every state/national park. I want to see ALL of it!!”

Favorite thing to cook? “Nothing! I am a terrible cook, but God knew I would need a stud chef in my life and sent me Seth Thomson to feed me!”

Favorite smell? “There used to be a ride at California Adventure in Disneyland called Soarin’ Over California (now Soarin’ Around the World). It made you feel like you were flying over different parts of California and sprayed scents that coincided with the different landscapes. The smell over the California orange fields knocked my socks off – I wish they would bottle that smell up and sell it. I would totally buy it!”

Thank you Meagan for being a part of our Real-Girls: Wives community! Finding magic in the midst of motherhood + marriage is something  we are all doing, together. Check out Meagan’s encouraging story below, and see how she cultivated community after moving to a new city!

Xo, Becca

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