What You Should Make Instead of a To Do List

I have this love/hate relationship with creating To-Do lists. I love the idea of goal setting and crossing off completed items. I’m very much a list person! But ever since my baby became a toddler, it’s like a flip switched with my ability to keep up with my To-Do lists. I suddenly had to devote more time and resources in keeping up with her growing ambition to explore and do (which I love!)…but it made me feel discouraged at the end of the day for not completing everything I had made a list “to do.”

In fact, feeling like that at the end of the day is the reason I stopped making To-Do lists altogether. Recently, I heard an amazing talk by Meg Johnson where she said to “STOP making a ‘TO-DO’ list at the beginning of the day. What we really should be doing is at the END of the day, look back and see everything you DID do and call it your “TA-DA” list.’ Mind blown!

As an entrepreneur mama of a young toddler who works from home, I love this idea. There have been so many days where I’ve felt defeated by the chaos of my day and didn’t have a chance or the time (let alone energy or brain power) to complete the To-Do list I made for myself that morning. Heck, I’ve even had To-Do lists go unchecked off for as long as a month.

Most days I’m able to just give myself grace and move on. Other days however Continue reading

Baby Number Two

mom dad and baby at the beach

We already shared our big announcement last week with friends and family, just in time for Halloween  — so in case you missed it on social media, SURPRISE! We’re expecting our second baby, due in May 2019!!! We want to have three kids total, maaaaaybe four depending on what genders we get. John jokingly told me he’s afraid of being outnumbered if we have another girl, but that secretly he really enjoys being a girl dad and wouldn’t mind another daughter. 😉

We’ve had this idea for a long time that we wanted at least two of our kids to be close in age so they could grow up together as best friends and have someone to play with. When our next one is born, they will be 22 months apart! We can’t wait to meet him/her…and to find out if our baby is a him or a her!

The announcement: how we revealed our second pregnancy

I would have done something a bit more elaborate for our pregnancy announcement, but Continue reading

Finding Magic In Motherhood: How Becoming A Mom Gave Me A Fresh Start

This week’s feature is from Valeska, a mama blogger at Sincerely Vee Blog. On her blog, she shares inspiration, encouragement, and truth to mamas seeking to widen their community of support, deepen their faith, and find hope + strength throughout motherhood. Today, she is sharing her story on how she became a new person, inside and out, after she became a mama – despite her hard upbringing.

Movie you wish you could live out:Eat Pray Love. Okay, I read this book and saw the movie before I was married, but I still wish I had lived the adventures she did in this movie!”

Favorite Royal Couple: “Prince Harry and Meghan Markle duh! To be honest, before the royal wedding I really didn’t care about what was going on…but then I binged watched every royal documentary on Netflix after their wedding and loved the magic that royal weddings have! I still wish I could be a real life princess.”

Coffee or tea:  “Coffee coffee coffee. Need I say more?”

Thank you Valeska for being a part of our Real-Girls: Mothers community! Finding magic in the midst of motherhood + marriage is something  we are all doing, together. Read below for Valeska’s post on experiencing the healing love of Christ through motherhood, and how it shaped her perspective on being a mama. Continue reading

5 Important Things Every Married Couple Should Talk About

Maybe your marriage is one where it’s hard to bring up certain subjects, or maybe your marriage is one where you feel like you can talk about anything and everything. John and I have been on both ends of the spectrum, and thankfully we’ve worked hard to stay on the “talk about anything and everything” side! Learning how to be effective communicators will strengthen, sharpen, and deepen your relationship. Especially so after you’ve become parents! Continue reading

How To Be Okay With Being Vulnerable in Friendships

This post was edited for and originally published on WeAreBeautiful.org on August 4, 2018.


Growing up, I was the type of person to totally embrace vulnerability. I had a knack for initiating genuine connections with others by being open and showing a desire to truly know others. In church, my youth pastor would always come to me to make friends with the new girl, or have me introduce her to others. In school, I always approached those who sat alone. And, I made a lot of great friendships this way!

I never wanted anyone to not have someone who knew them and loved them even still. To know that someone wants to make a connection with you, and chooses to sit with you, who wants to know you – this desire for community and relationship is a reflection of what Jesus desires to share with us. And what better way to demonstrate the love that Christ has for us, than to display that same desire to know and to love others?

But building deep friendships is a marathon, not a sprint. It takes a lot of trust, a lot of hours spent together, and a lot of vulnerability. Continue reading