Finding Magic in Marriage: 4 Easy Ways To Stop Arguing With Your Spouse

This week’s feature is from Mel K, the fashionista blogger behind Confessions Of A Work In Progress. Mel is a social worker, turned public administrator, turned retail sales associate/fashion blogger and is now in the middle of her Leadership Studies Ph.D. program. Her blog is chalk full of modest + feminine style tips and tricks, insight on how to make your marriage strong and solid, and reflections on how to live your life with purpose and grace! Today, she’s sharing her experience on communication in her 4 years marriage and how “talking about feelings” can be easier than it seems.

Favorite smell: “Freshly ground and brewed Texas Pecan coffee! It’s amazing.”

One thing on your bucket list: “I would love to visit Israel! I think that would be so cool!”

Favorite fast food: “Chick Fil A of course! I’m a loyal customer!”

Thank you Mel for being a part of our Real-Girls: Wives community! Finding magic in the midst of motherhood + marriage is something  we are all doing, together. Be sure to scroll to the bottom for some fun blog post links on Mel’s blog, on bettering your marriage! And be sure to follow her on Instagram (@confessionsofaworkinprogress) for daily style tips, sweet encouragement, and fun insight on creating a happy marriage.

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How We’re Tripling Our Savings In 4 Months

If you’ve been following me on Instagram for a while, you probably have seen me talk about our plans of saving money, looking to buy a home, and how we’ve been on one income for the last year since we made the decision for me to stay at home with our baby.

Now that Izzy is almost 13 months old, we have plans to try for baby numero dos – but since we live in a one bedroom apartment, we don’t exactly have room to expand our little family unless we move into a bigger place. We had a few ideas on how we could expand, and actually we were THIS close to putting a down payment on a new home two weeks ago!!

But after sitting down and talking about our options to expand: buy a town home, rent a house, me go back to work, but then what about childcare, we’d like something with a yard, we don’t want to have a huge monthly mortgage…we realized that the smartest financial move (literally) we could make for our future would be to Continue reading

Featured Real-Girl Essay: Trusting God’s Promises When You’re Stuck in the Pits

This week’s Featured Real-Girl’s Essay is written by Meagan Thompson, a sweet friend of mine who I finally met in person 2 years ago after finding her through We Are Beautiful‘s Instagram page a while back. Meagan is probably the most genuine person I’ve met – five minutes into a conversation with her, and you’ll know her passionate love for the Lord, her obsession with Disneyland, and a steadfast love for cultivating community. Also, she has great hair. It fills me with such joy to call her my sister friend! Today she is sharing a story many of us can relate to – how to pull yourself out of the pit, and embrace the person God has called you to be.

One thing on your bucket list? “Pack up a van with my hubby and my pooch and road trip up the west coast visiting every state/national park. I want to see ALL of it!!”

Favorite thing to cook? “Nothing! I am a terrible cook, but God knew I would need a stud chef in my life and sent me Seth Thomson to feed me!”

Favorite smell? “There used to be a ride at California Adventure in Disneyland called Soarin’ Over California (now Soarin’ Around the World). It made you feel like you were flying over different parts of California and sprayed scents that coincided with the different landscapes. The smell over the California orange fields knocked my socks off – I wish they would bottle that smell up and sell it. I would totally buy it!”

Thank you Meagan for being a part of our Real-Girls: Wives community! Finding magic in the midst of motherhood + marriage is something  we are all doing, together. Check out Meagan’s encouraging story below, and see how she cultivated community after moving to a new city!

Xo, Becca

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Finding Magic in Marriage: Cooking For And With Your Spouse

This week’s feature is from Laryssa Moore, my sister-in-law and recipe maker behind The Simple Plate – a fresh food blog featuring healthy dishes and decadent sweets anyone can (and should!) add to their weeknight recipe list. Laryssa is an amazing cook, and I am so excited to be featuring some tips and tricks from her about cooking for and with your spouse (and family, too!).

I got The Newlywed Cookbook as one of our wedding gifts when we were first married, and it’s one of my favorite wedding gifts because I LOVE to cook with my husband John. We will cook together and for each other, and both really enjoy being in the kitchen trying both regular and new recipes. So when I found out that my brother’s fiance loved to be in the kitchen as well, of course I had to get them the same cookbook! A gal after my own heart, Laryssa takes recipes and turns them into her own modified yummy creations that fit her lifestyle and taste. Even if you wouldn’t call yourself a natural in the kitchen, cooking together is something you should try at least once a week! It will bring you closer in marriage, make you want to try new recipes together, and will challenge your patience with learning a new skill.

Make sure you don’t miss out on Laryssa’s free recipe for French Bread (in a downloadable PDF) at the bottom of this post, too! 🙂

Favorite thing to cook? “I love cooking Mediterranean food, particularly Italian and Middle Eastern. Pizza is on the menu regularly as well as humus and pita bread. And with the herbs from our garden I like to make lots of pesto and put it on everything!” Continue reading

Six Fun Ways To Deepen Your Marriage Relationship


With John (my husband) working night shift — which is from 6pm to 7am 4 days a week — the longest we get to see each other is maybe 30 minutes to an hour a day in the mornings when izzy and I wake up as he’s coming home.
Maintaining a thriving relationship and deep connection on this type of schedule is NOT easy, friends…and sometimes I feel like a single mom because of how I rarely see him! I can choose to be bitter about it and let it frustrate me that this is our life right now…OR I can show up + own up to my role as a homemaker and count the blessings! John and I both have our own ways of “working” on our marriage. Though sometimes our life plans don’t always happen the way we had originally thought they would, we still make an effort every day to make sure we deepen our relationship. Because no matter what curve balls come at us, we know that we will have each other and that’s all that matters 🙂

All marriages, whether you have kids or opposite schedules or not, can always use a little extra grace and effort to keep your marriage running smooth and strong. Here are six fun ways to do this every day: Continue reading